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The Not So Beautiful Game, Step 11 and Last: In Which Our Narrator Dispenses Parting Cliches

As this, “Manage Expectations,” is the final step, one might be tempted to think that a great denouement might loom.  Some things do actually change, but most things don’t.  We open with the various denizens of the mansion in Hollywood holding a housemeeting to mediate between Herbal and Mystery with …

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The Not So Beautiful Game, Step 10: In Which Critical Thinking Would be Better than Mindlessly Following Directions and Making Assumptions

After all the foreboding of doominess in the last step, one would have thought that step 10 (Blast Last Minute Resistance–it’s a euphemism for rape) would find the den of internet libertines in their $50k/month mansion in Hollywood in a slightly different situation than the last step.  One would, however, …

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The Not So Beautiful Game, Step 9: In Which Our Narrator Blames Everything on a Woman and is Horrified by Mental Illness

Remember how last step Style was explaining the tensions in the house full of internet Don Juans?  Forget all that.  “It took just one woman to bring Project Hollywood down.”  Style then describes Katya, the woman in question, though he immediately reverts to calling her a girl, as in “standard-issue …

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The Not So Beautiful Game, Step 8: In Which our Narrator Dislikes his Housemates and Falls Prey to Consistency Bias

Trigger warning: discussions of taking photos of sex without permission. Sexy photos, taking and distribution of, without permission, is what I would consider a sex crime. See Jennifer Lawrence for more. Other than that, it’s just generally kind of a tawdry and creepy sort of step, this, so if you …

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Tracts in the Mail

As Olivia taught us recently in her DBT series, sometimes there are simply no pros to outweigh the cons of saying certain things to one’s relatives.  One such situation is the way that my very Christian grandparents keep sending me tracts and handwritten notes attempting to convert me.  Fortunately, they …

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The Not So Beautiful Game, Step 7: In Which Our Narrator Mistakes Familiarity with Flim-Flam for Strength of Character

Our bloody fabulous editor Mindy brought this article to my attention.  It confirmed my impression from reading The Game that the type of people who attend workshops given by internet libertines are looking for some, any, social skills and the whole thing is rather sad.  It also points out some shortcomings …

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The Not So Beautiful Game Step 6: In Which an Opportunity for Research and Plot Development is Lost

I am so sorry, darlings.  I have not posted in quite a while about this book, and one might think, given the developments at the end of the last section, that something of breathtaking interestingness would be happening soon.  One would, however, be wrong.  In Step 6 (Create an Emotional …

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The Not So Beautiful Game: In Which Our Intrepid Narrator Validates his Ideological Convictions via Reality Television, Name Drops, and then Blames the Internet for Mental and Societal Ills

Content warning: Besides the usual misogyny, we have suicidal ideation. Terminology warning:  I am so over the term pick up.  For one thing, I’m never entirely certain whether it should be one word or two, and if the latter, is it hyphenated?  Also, we already have the perfectly delightful word …

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