• d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago

    Also, I can’t count the number of times I’ve heard people defend using words like ‘fag’ or ‘retard’ because “this how how people use language”. It’s not okay.

    • Gay people and people with disabilities are not inherently dangerous, are not moved by internal pressures to harm others.
      Describing a kidfucker as a pedophile is not the same thing. It’s a semantic quibble.

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 3 months ago

    A pedophile is someone with a mental illness who needs treatment. A child rapist is a child rapist regardless of their mental health. A pedophile may or may not be a child rapist, a child rapist may or may not be a pedophile. It’s not pedantic to separate the two and to use language accurately. Using pedophile when you mean child rapist…[Read more]

    • All I’m saying is, the vernacular changes. Good or bad, the horse is out of the barn. The same way ‘misogynist’ has come to mean the same thing as ‘chauvinist’ in my lifetime.
      It’s a losing battle, the ship has sailed, can’t put the genie back in the bottle and all that. People keep trying to change language, but prescriptive changes almost…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 4 months ago

    I don’t think you can really blame people like Rush Limbaugh for this. Fact of it is that there are many ‘feminists’ screaming that all heterosexual sex is rape, that trans women aren’t ‘real’ women, that women who freely choose to be stay at home mothers are slaves who can’t see the shackles, and many other deplorable things. It isn’t like…[Read more]

    • Maybe “many” in terms of absolute numbers, like “more than a hundred”–but radical feminists are a small proportion of the total.

    • It’s particularly easy to see why people are offended by feminism when other people keep repeating the same lies and myths about feminism like:

      “…there are many ‘feminists’ screaming that all heterosexual sex is rape, that trans women aren’t ‘real’ women, that women who freely choose to be stay at home mothers are slaves who can’t see the sha…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 5 months ago

    I have to agree. I can’t count the number of times someone has linked me to an article claiming Study A has proven Thing Y, only to find out that when sources are checked that Study A does not even claim Thing Y at all, but instead somewhat related Thing X. Upon further inspection it turns out that Study A’s proof of Thing X is unconvincing given…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 5 months ago

    “[…] clearly they shouldn’t have run the story in the shape it was in.”

    Are you sure? Again, the Rolling Stone telling this woman that her word wasn’t enough evidence to run this story seems to be exactly what the BelieveHer campaign is fighting against. We can’t tell people to believe victims and then criticize them when it turns out they w…[Read more]

    • There is a big difference between believing someone and retelling a story without thorough (or even rudimentary) investigation, at least if you care about your journalistic integrity.

      It seems they did not do due diligence in this case; It’s one thing to protect the accuser by not contacting the accused but they don’t appear to have done…[Read more]

    • Yes, they should not have published the story that they did.

      After some further research, it seems the reporter did a pretty haphazard job all around.

      Generally, for journalists one person’s word is actually not enough evidence to run a story. What you do is take that person’s word and then try to independently verify as much of it as you…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 5 months ago

    Can I start by saying that I agree with you, because I don’t want this comment to come across as a defense of the Rolling Stones.

    Refusing to publish the original story seems to fly directly in the face of the BelieveHer movement, while refusing to retract a story they know isn’t true would seem to be a serious breach of journalistic integrity.…[Read more]

    • I don’t have the answer either. But I will say that with great power comes great responsibility. Rolling Stone is a highly circulated and highly read publication amongst young readers. They have the ability to influence how society views a topic. If Rolling Stone did publish a false rape claim (and we don’t even know for sure if that is true) they…[Read more]

      • Exactly. As a journalist myself, I cringed as I read that letter.

        Rolling Stone is caught between a rock and a hard place, which means there isn’t a good option.

        If they no longer have confidence in their story as they told it, then they have no choice but to retract it. But as Amy correctly points out, the retraction itself will have…[Read more]

        • “[…] clearly they shouldn’t have run the story in the shape it was in.”

          Are you sure? Again, the Rolling Stone telling this woman that her word wasn’t enough evidence to run this story seems to be exactly what the BelieveHer campaign is fighting against. We can’t tell people to believe victims and then criticize them when it turns out they w…[Read more]

          • There is a big difference between believing someone and retelling a story without thorough (or even rudimentary) investigation, at least if you care about your journalistic integrity.

            It seems they did not do due diligence in this case; It’s one thing to protect the accuser by not contacting the accused but they don’t appear to have done…[Read more]

          • Yes, they should not have published the story that they did.

            After some further research, it seems the reporter did a pretty haphazard job all around.

            Generally, for journalists one person’s word is actually not enough evidence to run a story. What you do is take that person’s word and then try to independently verify as much of it as you…[Read more]

      • I winced when I read about this before work today. I could already see the MRAs crowing about it and using it as fodder for years to come.

        I’m kind of reminded of another case I read earlier today, about a man who was arrested and lost his job because a sheriff was “absolutely certain” he was a mysterious man appearing in a tape showing the…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago

    I really don’t understand your feelings on this. There are literally millions of circumcisions performed yearly on boys who cannot consent to or even understand the procedure. If an individual case of this is sickening, why are we not talking about this as an epidemic? Why is it only sickening when it’s done against the mother’s wishes?

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 6 months ago

    I suspect circumcision being against the interests of the child just hasn’t been established as fact in a legal sense. If it were, I suspect the government would effectively have to outlaw all circumcision.

    Given the massive support it has in public opinion and the implications such a precedent would set, that’s hardly surprising.

    • Sounds reasonable. I suspect that reality itself hasn’t yet been established in a legal sense.

      • Who talks about reality in a court of law? If we used reality, we couldn’t make millions of dollars screwing people out of things.

        (As an aside, I find it interesting that of all religious practices, everyone seems to insist circumcision has some rational basis. Never mind that it has been alleged to ‘cure’ or ‘prevent’ as many things as…[Read more]

        • Too right mate. You and your people well know how the law works to screw people out of things.

        • Fuck. Was that ambiguous again? I meant to imply that you had been screwed by the law, not that you were the screwer(s). At first I never considered that it could be taken the opposite way, but stranger things have happened.

        • I understood what you meant, don’t worry. I don’t use any excuse to prove I’m the most noncompetitive, intersectional person of all. Mostly because in the last year, ‘intersectionality’ has totally excluded Indians.

          Most ndn law actually does have some sense to it these days, at least when they follow Felix Cohen’s ideas. Though Congress often…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 7 months ago

    In fairness to the service provider, they like get hundreds of calls a day featuring the same ‘uhh.. I deleted something by accident and need you to restore it’ demand. Archiving, at least for a period of time, is good service. That their security was breached was a separate problem.

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 9 months ago

    To answer the question, the number 2-8% number comes from the following meta study:
    http://www.ndaa.org/pdf/the_voice_vol_3_no_1_2009.pdf
    Originally linked to here:

    The Science of False Rape Allegations

    From the ndaa article:
    “They then proceeded to evaluate each case using the official criteria for…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 9 months ago

    The 2-8% statistic is extremely misleading. The meta study which that number comes from makes very clear that it is the number of false accusations that are proven false, not the number of false accusations in total. Using the two interchangeably is the equivalent of using the number of convictions determine the number of ‘true’ rape accusations…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 9 months ago

    I genuinely couldn’t tell if it was satire or not. Lines like “I realize most women with healthy self-confidence don’t court unwanted male attention. In fact, most women seem to hate it.”, “I can be that objectified sex thing for them!” and “I imagine […] when the Israelites were building the pyramids, with scores of single Jewish women hiking u…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 9 months ago

    On women leaving engineering:

    Has anyone ever seen a study on why and how many male engineers leave? I can’t for the life of me find anything. Certainly some number of both men and women will leave, or never begin, for every reason in the study. Without a some basis for comparison I’m left only with stereotypes to interpret how much of the…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 9 months ago

    Despite the flowery language, I don’t see any real difference between that and “do what I want (/need) or I’ll leave”.

    Now, there’s nothing inherently wrong with leaving a relationship when your needs aren’t met. I would currently end things with my SO if they insisted on a sexual relationship I wasn’t comfortable with, or tell them to leave if…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 9 months ago

    Is there any real evidence that women aren’t as disappointed when they are denied sex? I would expect women to complain about it far less, since they’re far more likely to be blamed for their partner’s lack of desire, but I’m not really convinced that it happens less often to women or that they’re less disappointed. The flip side being that women…[Read more]

    • I have been denied sex before, while in relationships (two were “friends with benefits” and one was an actual relationship). Each situation was different. The only time it really hurt was with the second “friends with benefits” because he is the type of guy who is ALWAYS horny and ALWAYS up for sex, so I knew it had something to do with me, and…[Read more]

      • It can certainly work both ways. I have on occasion denied sex BECAUSE the woman had brandished sex as reward/punishment. “If you go fishing with Bill on Friday evening, you aren’t getting any sex”, or “if you can’t get off work early enough to see the play, there’ll be no sex this weekend”, e.g. As soon as that trope is presented, the…[Read more]

        • You seem to be arguing from a place that assumes the author of this article and everyone responding are only speaking from the perspective of women being coerced, and from a place where only women can use sex as a “bargaining tool”.

          Do you know why I was so hurt when my fwb denied me sex? Because he was using it to wield power over me.…[Read more]

        • Woops. I actually replied to the wrong person. But my comment does kind of fit here. I’ll copy/paste where it was supposed to go as well.

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 9 months ago

    “And you know, as someone who has a bit of a temper, I’ve been where Solange has been. Sometimes you just don’t give a fuck about right or wrong, and I’m ALSO pretty certain that Solange knew there was no way she was going to harm Jay Z in any way, and therefore felt “safe” giving him a few hits. Again, I’m not saying it’s right, and I have learne…[Read more]

    • No. Me and my sisters are fighters, that’s all. My twin sister once put a guy in the hospital, I’m not even joking. But they were both, uh, not sober. I have gotten myself into some gnarly situations where my smaller and weaker statue could have put me in danger. Them’s just the facts. I just don’t always give a fuck because I have a bit of…[Read more]

  • d506 posted a new activity comment 3 years, 9 months ago

    “But reports aren’t the same as accusations…many false reports of rape are those in which the victim doesn’t name the supposed rapist or even give a specific description of them. So the number of false accusations is actually considerably lower than 2-8%.”

    I really don’t think we can make that conclusion. The article you’re linking isn’t estim…[Read more]