• faradn posted a new activity comment 3 years, 11 months ago

    Maybe “many” in terms of absolute numbers, like “more than a hundred”–but radical feminists are a small proportion of the total.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 3 years, 11 months ago

    I’ve tended to call myself a feminist ally instead of a feminist, because I’d heard some feminists say they were uncomfortable with men calling themselves feminists. Is that passe at this point?

    • I think the feminist movement benefits by having men who identify as feminists. I haven’t really heard a good argument for why men should be “allies” instead. The patriarchy hurts men as well.

      • And if, on a first date, or speed date, a woman asks you if you’re a “feminist”, then gets angry at you for saying “yes” because “only women can be feminists” … well … it might be time to walk away.
        Who plays gotcha games on a first date?

      • “The patriarchy hurts men as well.” Yes! And, it is supported by women as well. When I was a kid, I (male) got more gender policing from my female classmates than from my male classmates. And I’m not even gay, trans, queer, or any other non-cishet label; just being nerdy, bookish, and uninterested in performative masculinity was enough to be…[Read more]

      • I guess it doesn’t help that there are men who identify as feminists but who fail to live the label, like He Who Shall Not Be Named (not because I’m unwilling to say his name, just because I don’t remember it… Hugo something?) and who maybe only identify themselves as feminists because they think it’ll get them closer to women.
        By the same…[Read more]

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 3 years, 11 months ago

    They validate personality tests by the takers’ self-assessment? I thought it was by looking at answers’ correlation over large samples, and at individual takers’ consistency over time.

    • I wasn’t talking about validation. Takers’ self-assessment just points to the flaws in these types of tests. I’m not sure how they would look at the correlation over large samples without getting some kind of self-assessment from the takers, though.

      And the MBTI does have a problem with consistency over time, largely because it sets up…[Read more]

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 3 years, 11 months ago

    I’d be curious to see how often the people who are skeptical about social science research that seems to show social influences are equally skeptical about the research that seems to show evolutionary influences.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 3 years, 12 months ago

    Normally I would say two wrongs don’t make a right. In these situations, though, there really isn’t any other recourse. Appealing to the law? They don’t care about, or indeed even understand online harassment. Appealing to the decency of the average internet denizen, trying to create an online culture where that’s not accepted? Actually that’s a…[Read more]

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years ago

    No problem.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years ago

    Anyway sorry for not making sure I knew what I was reading before commenting. I’m at work and doing online stuff between tasks. Bad habit.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years ago

    I know, that was dumb of me. It’s not so much not understanding social media as my getting names and even non-proper words mixed up really easily.

    • Thanks for letting me know but I worry that this speaks to the larger problem of people making false assumptions about us or others without fact checking and then taking that information as truth and spreading it.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years ago

    Holy crap, for some reason when I read TAM I thought “The Amazing Atheist.” My bad.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years ago

    The comment in the picture, is that a retweeted FTB comment directed at The Amazing Atheist? If so there are people on our side who need to cut that out too.

    • Uhhh, no. The comment in the photo was a tweet sent to me.

      • Holy crap, for some reason when I read TAM I thought “The Amazing Atheist.” My bad.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years ago

    To clarify: I think he actually DOES improve himself.

    • Yes, I’d agree that Savage has done a much better job of growing and changing as a person over time. As in, he actually is aware that privilege is a thing.

      • I think Savage does make an effort to improve himself, and is an activist for those who are downtrodden. Looking over that list, there were a good number of “Dan, why would you say that??”, but then there were some where I think sarcasm or context were missed.
        That said, he still has a bit of a ways to go, and definitely needs to continue to be…[Read more]

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years ago

    I think the difference between Dawkins and Savage is that Savage is self-aware enough to improve himself regarding inclusiveness.

    • To clarify: I think he actually DOES improve himself.

      • Yes, I’d agree that Savage has done a much better job of growing and changing as a person over time. As in, he actually is aware that privilege is a thing.

        • I think Savage does make an effort to improve himself, and is an activist for those who are downtrodden. Looking over that list, there were a good number of “Dan, why would you say that??”, but then there were some where I think sarcasm or context were missed.
          That said, he still has a bit of a ways to go, and definitely needs to continue to be…[Read more]

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years, 2 months ago

    Broad acrimony online is probably a reaction to the “equal sides” nonsense that the MSM puts out. The snark may be closer to the truth, but it’s still not always accurate.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years, 2 months ago

    Great piece. Thanks for bringing more nuance to this discussion.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago

    This is a great piece, I agree wholeheartedly.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago

    “One MRA I met online tried to convince me racism was related to prejudice against men. LOL”

    Society treats women worse overall, especially women of color, but men of color are disproportionately the victims of the criminal justice system. I’d call that a pretty clear intersection. I don’t know if that’s what the MRA was talking about (probably…[Read more]

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years, 3 months ago

    On the D&D thing, I can’t believe there are really still people still saying women aren’t interested in that.

    • Oh, you’d be surprised the nerdy things men can’t imagine women enjoying.

      How would PMS make women only unbearable to infertile men? That…doesn’t make any sense.

      • As I understand it, with a fertile man, the woman would be perpetually pregnant* (or nursing), thus suppressing her insufferable PMS.**

        [*] and barefoot and in the cave-kitchen, making mammoth sandwiches.
        [**] isn’t it another tenet of evo-psych that insanity is inherited from one’s children? With lots of kids, wouldn’t she be unbearable 24…[Read more]

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years, 4 months ago

    I’m not sure what you mean here.

    • I think — and he can correct me if I’m wrong — that he is saying that a lot of men are unwilling/unable to ask for sex. That instead, they have to “take” it. Think of all those romantic comedies where men chase women, rather than it being an equal thing. Women also have this idea, that they can’t ask for sex, or they will be seen as slutty or…[Read more]

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years, 4 months ago

    The Dune series does a lot of interesting stuff with religion and the supernatural. Like the group of women who’ve been seeding messianic myths all over the galaxy to prepare for the Ubermench they’ve been breeding–but these women are actual sorceresses. Later there’s a god-emperor who is a huge prescient worm.

  • faradn posted a new activity comment 4 years, 4 months ago

    What am I saying–she’s being perfectly consistent. She wants people to not judge HER by her gender or looks, other women be damned. The essence of the anti-feminist woman.

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