Sex Talk Part 4: The Teen Skepchick Guide To Dating
Knowing you troublesome teens, you kids are probably “hanging out” and doing Flying Spaghetti Monster knows what. Like most young adults, you are also probably dating or thinking about dating. So here are some tips on relationships and dating that I gathered from well informed friends of mine. Parents, you might want to read these too.
Teen Skepchick Guide To Dating
- Consider what your friends and family have to say about your boyfriend/girlfriend. They might see things in your new boyfriend/girlfriend that you miss or ignore.
- When you first start dating suggest a group date. Having friends around you might make you and your date feel more comfortable.
- If you know that you are not ready for a sexual encounter try not to allow yourself to be alone with your boy/girlfriend for too long.
- Always be prepared. Have condoms or other methods of birth control available and know how to use them. I don’t care if you don’t plan to be sexually active, I don’t care if your single, I don’t care if you go to an all girls/boys school. If you are old enough to experience puberty you are old enough to become a statistic.
- If any abuse were to show up in your relationship in any form, end it immediately. File charges if possible. There is nothing worse than sexual, physical, verbal or emotional abuse in a relationship.
- If you are in a committed relationship and you and you are “like so in love” please remember your brain is not fully developed and people change. The person who you fell in love with in high school may be a totally different person in 5 years.
- There is a difference between pleasure and love.
- Say no to overage men and women.
- Don’t ever feel like you have to stay with someone you do not like.
- If that special someone is having problems that you can not handle do not feel like it is your responsibility to fix them. Your responsibility is to be there for support and you don’t even need to do that.
- Honesty is the best policy. Get it all out on the table by 3rd date. Tell the other person what you want out of the relationship and make sure you are both on the same page emotionally. There is nothing worse than a lovesick stalker…
As far as long distance relationships go:
- Long distance relationships work as long as the two people are mature, responsible and loyal.
- Do not uproot your entire life to be with someone. If you want to pursue further commitment, go and stay with them for a while. Thos will allow you to feel what its like to be around that person all the time. And then decide if you want to further explore your commitment with that person.
The best piece of advice I have ever heard would be to not to get yourself wrapped up in a serious relationship. Your teen years are supposed to be fun and serious relationships are boring and tiresome.
😀 Remember kids! Love is just some chemicals in your brain. It is not magical at all!