• victoriadashtwenty posted a new activity comment 6 years ago

    Unless she is, in which case she may or may not owe you money but not sex.

  • victoriadashtwenty posted a new activity comment 6 years ago

    Well at that point you stop being sexual partners and that person stops having veto power over you having sex with other people. But that person doesn’t owe you sex. I don’t know why you’d want it, either. It’s terrible sex.

    • “and that person stops having veto power over you having sex with other people”

      Do they? At what point does that shade into “If you don’t give it to me I’ll get it somewhere else”?

      • When the differences are irreconcilable, despite good faith attempts such as counseling, improved communication, compromise, etc, it’s over. No fault divorce. We’ve had it in Australia for decades. Cue butthurt from lawyers out to make a buck.

        The key words are “irreconcilable differences”.

        • Despite the flowery language, I don’t see any real difference between that and “do what I want (/need) or I’ll leave”.

          Now, there’s nothing inherently wrong with leaving a relationship when your needs aren’t met. I would currently end things with my SO if they insisted on a sexual relationship I wasn’t comfortable with, or tell them to leave if…[Read more]

        • @d506: Not a lawyer, are you? 🙂

          I’m trying to keep this brief but accurate, and the words were carefully chosen.

          Any counselor worth their salt would point out that attempted coercion into sex was a jerk move likely to end in disaster. The presence of an objective and skilled third party makes the difference.

        • @d506: …and a compromise could be reached. For instance, I don’t know why they don’t settle on one good session per week. That way she only has to do it one more time a month than she is already, and he stops pestering her every single bloody day. But they have to work it out themselves.

          That brings me to the most important point, that they…[Read more]

        • Walls of text sure are tall with the new format! 🙂

  • victoriadashtwenty posted a new activity comment 6 years ago

    Lots of people that harm children have good intentions and think they’re doing the right thing. People who molest children often believe that what they are doing is beneficial to the child. Yes, we risk alienating them by locking them up but we wouldn’t dream of allowing them to continue sexual relationships with children just because their…[Read more]

    • Paul replied 6 years ago

      If your suggestions here were practiced children would come to far more harm than they do by missing a vitamin K injection. As the stats in this post point out, failure to give vitamin K at birth translates to 1 in 20,000 babies with permanent brain damage and 1 in 50,000 deaths. In contrast, removing a child from their parents and putting them in…[Read more]

  • victoriadashtwenty posted a new activity comment 6 years ago

    I don’t understand how this is legal. How is doing this different from beating kids to death or refusing to feed them?

    • Paul replied 6 years ago

      I don’t think this is a particularly helpful comparison to make. On the one hand we have parents making a misinformed decision because they believe it is best for their child, on the other hand we have a person in an out-of-control rage beating a child to death. Can you really not see the difference? This kind of attitude only reinforces the…[Read more]

      • Lots of people that harm children have good intentions and think they’re doing the right thing. People who molest children often believe that what they are doing is beneficial to the child. Yes, we risk alienating them by locking them up but we wouldn’t dream of allowing them to continue sexual relationships with children just because their…[Read more]

        • Paul replied 6 years ago

          If your suggestions here were practiced children would come to far more harm than they do by missing a vitamin K injection. As the stats in this post point out, failure to give vitamin K at birth translates to 1 in 20,000 babies with permanent brain damage and 1 in 50,000 deaths. In contrast, removing a child from their parents and putting them in…[Read more]

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